Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.
A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!
See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can't see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.
1. Be genuine.
Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.
2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.
To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.
3. Laugh out loud.
I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.
4. Don't forget yourself.
In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.
5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.
6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.
7. Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?
8. Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.
9. Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.
10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.
In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.
This book, although it is small, it is full of powerful information. It
provides a guide toward self-perfection. When I say this, I am talking
about the human mind and spirit. The body is a reflection of the mind
and spirit, so even if one is interested in the physical, working on
one's mind and spirit is actually the key to success.
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Friday, 15 June 2012
A Bug Free Mind
Genuine Happiness Comes from Within
Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.
So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.
My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.
Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.
How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.
Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.
When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.
Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”
I recommend an absolutely BRILLIANT book by a guy named Andy Shaw - I'm currently half way through - it is a book that does what it says on the tin. No frills, but pure and simple instructions on how to alter the way we think, and become successful in all our ventures, our hopes, and our dreams
Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.
So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.
My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.
Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.
How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.
Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.
When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.
Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”
I recommend an absolutely BRILLIANT book by a guy named Andy Shaw - I'm currently half way through - it is a book that does what it says on the tin. No frills, but pure and simple instructions on how to alter the way we think, and become successful in all our ventures, our hopes, and our dreams
Wednesday, 13 June 2012
Super Food
You Truly Are Exactly what You Eat Current dietary study has actually found 14 different nutrient-dense meals that time and again market great general wellness. Coined "superfoods," they have a tendency to have fewer calories, much higher degrees of vitamins and minerals, and also numerous disease-fighting antioxandants.
What are Super Foods
Beans (legumes), berries (particularly blueberries), broccoli, green herbal tea, nuts (specifically walnuts), oranges, pumpkin, salmon. soy, spinach, tomatoes, turkey, entire grains as well as oats, and also yogurt could all help prevent as well as also alter disorders such as hypertension, diabetes, Alzheimer's, and some kinds of cancer. And where one may have an effect on a particular part of the body, it is able to likewise affect the wellness of additional body features and performance, because the entire body is connected. With these 14 meals as the base of a balanced, sturdy eating plan, fat burning tricks as well as other unreliable programs can turn into a thing of the past in your life.
What are the effects on Not using Super Foods.
Alternatively, the ill-effects of an unbalanced eating plan are many and varied. Low energy, state of mind swings, tired all the time, weight issues, awkward or clumsy are just a couple of indications that your eating plan is unbalanced. An unbalanced diet plan could cause problems with maintenance of body muscles, growth and also health advancement, mind and peripheral nervous system operation, along with issues with bone and muscle systems. Manifestations of dietary deficiency include absence of energy, irritability, a weakened defense system resulting in recurring colds or allergic reactions, and mineral depletion that could cause an assortment of health and wellness concerns including anemia.
Spiritual and Body connection.
Since the body is linked to the spirit, understanding that an undesirable body may generate an unhealthy spirit only makes sense. When we nurture our body with these super foods as well as complement them with other nutrient-dense foods and also eating healthy fresh meals, our spirit will definitely be vitalized and a healthy and balanced body as a direct result.
A few modern-day diets based upon packaged fast foods are without supplements and minerals, which can impact our psychological capacities which includes irritability, confusion, as well as the feeling of 'being in a haze' all the time.
This is a superb book on Super Foods and an excellent guide to helping you understand the world of nutrition and good food to eat.
You Truly Are Exactly what You Eat Current dietary study has actually found 14 different nutrient-dense meals that time and again market great general wellness. Coined "superfoods," they have a tendency to have fewer calories, much higher degrees of vitamins and minerals, and also numerous disease-fighting antioxandants.
What are Super Foods
Beans (legumes), berries (particularly blueberries), broccoli, green herbal tea, nuts (specifically walnuts), oranges, pumpkin, salmon. soy, spinach, tomatoes, turkey, entire grains as well as oats, and also yogurt could all help prevent as well as also alter disorders such as hypertension, diabetes, Alzheimer's, and some kinds of cancer. And where one may have an effect on a particular part of the body, it is able to likewise affect the wellness of additional body features and performance, because the entire body is connected. With these 14 meals as the base of a balanced, sturdy eating plan, fat burning tricks as well as other unreliable programs can turn into a thing of the past in your life.
What are the effects on Not using Super Foods.
Alternatively, the ill-effects of an unbalanced eating plan are many and varied. Low energy, state of mind swings, tired all the time, weight issues, awkward or clumsy are just a couple of indications that your eating plan is unbalanced. An unbalanced diet plan could cause problems with maintenance of body muscles, growth and also health advancement, mind and peripheral nervous system operation, along with issues with bone and muscle systems. Manifestations of dietary deficiency include absence of energy, irritability, a weakened defense system resulting in recurring colds or allergic reactions, and mineral depletion that could cause an assortment of health and wellness concerns including anemia.
Spiritual and Body connection.
Since the body is linked to the spirit, understanding that an undesirable body may generate an unhealthy spirit only makes sense. When we nurture our body with these super foods as well as complement them with other nutrient-dense foods and also eating healthy fresh meals, our spirit will definitely be vitalized and a healthy and balanced body as a direct result.
A few modern-day diets based upon packaged fast foods are without supplements and minerals, which can impact our psychological capacities which includes irritability, confusion, as well as the feeling of 'being in a haze' all the time.
This is a superb book on Super Foods and an excellent guide to helping you understand the world of nutrition and good food to eat.
Monday, 15 August 2011
Energy - The Source of Life.
Just a quick note to everyone, I apoligise for my long absence but I have been so busy that I've neglected the subject I hold very dear. Hopefully I will press on with further blogs and keep you upto date with cutting edge techniques for self-development and self-awareness which will be of great value in these rather troubled times.
I would gratfully appreciate any comments that would add any new information to current thinking of self help and aid to all of us.
Remember we're all part of the Earthship and as crew we have a duty to clean our ship and support each other.
Until the next blog
Take Care
Mark
I would gratfully appreciate any comments that would add any new information to current thinking of self help and aid to all of us.
Remember we're all part of the Earthship and as crew we have a duty to clean our ship and support each other.
Until the next blog
Take Care
Mark
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